If you want to make proper judgments about people you must operate from the vantage point of your desire to make no judgments apart from the active reception of the Holy Spirit. Ask for the Holy Spirit. Once you have received the Spirit begin seeking the knowledge on the subject (whatever or whomever that is) that allows you to find a basis for how you respond. If nothing adequate or substantive is found, knock on other doors of inquiry. This is not for the purpose of trying to self-fulfill your suppositions but to see if the Truth opens the door and speaks to your search.
If a straightforward, self-evident conclusion is not forthcoming don’t try to create broad scenarios where your suspicions can be validated. Don’t go looking for helpers or other birds who will flock together with you. It is better to watch and pray than to become a watcher who preys on the first thread that will sew your blanket of suspicion together.
Get into getting the story right, not just getting into the story. Jesus teaches that the easiest set of information to string together may not be the most accurate but it will likely be the most destructive. Don’t be in a hurry to paint with a broad brush. Instead, be painstaking in your patience and in your attention to detail and congruity for this is surely how you would want someone to observe and form conclusions about you.
Give it time and conduct the contradiction or “tree” test at the very least. Don’t judge by a snapshot or quick quote. Instead, Jesus says go by the tree test. “Wherefore, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.” (Matthew 7: 17 – 20)
Remember it takes time for fruit to come out. While you wait, keep on applying the golden rule: “do to others what you would have them do to you.” (Matthew 7: 12)